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Showing posts with label Inspirational. Show all posts
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Tuesday, October 04, 2016
1001 Places/Experiences to See or Savour #377 - Everest Base Camp @ 5364m, Day8
1001 Places/Experiences to See or Savour After Remission #377
- Lobuche to Gorak Shep to Everest Base Camp @ 5364m, Day8
(On Day8 and after a gruelling 10-hrs of almost non-stop trekking via Gorak Shep village, we reached Everest Base Camp, the world's highest base camp! It took everything out of us - at one point with 40minutes left to reach EBC, we were asking ourselves if we should continue. The gloom of the day, with cold wind, rain and then snow beating down on us and the failing daylight, we were seriously on the brink of calling it a day. Just look at the moon-like landscape we had to traverse - see video. But we summoned up enough strength to make it to the EBC 'summit' - surely, the most physically and mentally challenging thing we have ever done. But what a most fulfilling adventure it had been! Everest Base Camp - been there, done it, post-chemo, post-cancer. Just so, so happy - and proud of myself!)
Monday, July 25, 2016
My 10th Anniversary "Beating Cancer" Holiday..
This is my 10th Anniversary "Beating Cancer" Holiday, and it's a whopper!
Out in the Alaskan wilderness and on Celebrity Cruises' #1 attraction, the top highlights for me were big indeed - the majestic humpback whale and the powerful brown bear. Their raw power inspires me..to continue fighting the big C, to continue experiencing this wonderful world - there is so much life out there to savour still.
What a warm glow of happiness and love emanating from this entire holiday...hmm..so cool, so endearing..(as this video shows..)
Out in the Alaskan wilderness and on Celebrity Cruises' #1 attraction, the top highlights for me were big indeed - the majestic humpback whale and the powerful brown bear. Their raw power inspires me..to continue fighting the big C, to continue experiencing this wonderful world - there is so much life out there to savour still.
What a warm glow of happiness and love emanating from this entire holiday...hmm..so cool, so endearing..(as this video shows..)
Thursday, April 21, 2016
"10 Years Already? Time Flies.."
A wonderfully new milestone for me happened yesterday..
Dr Ang Peng Tiam said to me in his Mt E clinic:
"10 years already? Time flies. And your results today look great, Nellie"
And with that, my fight to be cancer-free reaches its 10-year milestone!
Throughout this time, Dr Ang and his personal assistant, Nurse Ace was by my side.
Feeling so grateful right now - I hope this photo of us shows my deep gratitude for them:
Thank you so much, Dr Ang and Nurse Ace!
(Later on, after this 10-second photoshoot, it was back to the chair, for more zoom-zoom drips into my body - a part of my life that few people know about, except my closest)
Dr Ang Peng Tiam said to me in his Mt E clinic:
"10 years already? Time flies. And your results today look great, Nellie"
And with that, my fight to be cancer-free reaches its 10-year milestone!
Throughout this time, Dr Ang and his personal assistant, Nurse Ace was by my side.
Feeling so grateful right now - I hope this photo of us shows my deep gratitude for them:
Thank you so much, Dr Ang and Nurse Ace!
(Later on, after this 10-second photoshoot, it was back to the chair, for more zoom-zoom drips into my body - a part of my life that few people know about, except my closest)
Wednesday, April 22, 2015
Angelina Jolie - Diary of a Surgery
Angelina Jolie's surgery, what a story..
What courage indeed..
This is one of those times when almost all the medical terms in a news article means something to me, from CA125 to PET/CT scan. I am sure her story here will save many women from ovarian cancer, or enable early detection..
Thank you for sharing, Angelina!
Angelina Jolie Pitt: Diary of a Surgery
By ANGELINA JOLIE PITT
NYT

I wanted other women at risk to know about the options. I promised to follow up with any information that could be useful, including about my next preventive surgery, the removal of my ovaries and fallopian tubes.
I had been planning this for some time. It is a less complex surgery than the mastectomy, but its effects are more severe. It puts a woman into forced menopause. So I was readying myself physically and emotionally, discussing options with doctors, researching alternative medicine, and mapping my hormones for estrogen or progesterone replacement. But I felt I still had months to make the date.
Then two weeks ago I got a call from my doctor with blood-test results. “Your CA-125 is normal,” he said. I breathed a sigh of relief. That test measures the amount of the protein CA-125 in the blood, and is used to monitor ovarian cancer. I have it every year because of my family history.
But that wasn’t all. He went on. “There are a number of inflammatory markers that are elevated, and taken together they could be a sign of early cancer.” I took a pause. “CA-125 has a 50 to 75 percent chance of missing ovarian cancer at early stages,” he said. He wanted me to see the surgeon immediately to check my ovaries.
I went through what I imagine thousands of other women have felt. I told myself to stay calm, to be strong, and that I had no reason to think I wouldn’t live to see my children grow up and to meet my grandchildren.
I called my husband in France, who was on a plane within hours. The beautiful thing about such moments in life is that there is so much clarity. You know what you live for and what matters. It is polarizing, and it is peaceful.
That same day I went to see the surgeon, who had treated my mother. I last saw her the day my mother passed away, and she teared up when she saw me: “You look just like her.” I broke down. But we smiled at each other and agreed we were there to deal with any problem, so “let’s get on with it.”
Nothing in the examination or ultrasound was concerning. I was relieved that if it was cancer, it was most likely in the early stages. If it was somewhere else in my body, I would know in five days. I passed those five days in a haze, attending my children’s soccer game, and working to stay calm and focused.

The day of the results came. The PET/CT scan looked clear, and the tumor test was negative. I was full of happiness, although the radioactive tracer meant I couldn’t hug my children. There was still a chance of early stage cancer, but that was minor compared with a full-blown tumor. To my relief, I still had the option of removing my ovaries and fallopian tubes and I chose to do it.
I did not do this solely because I carry the BRCA1 gene mutation, and I want other women to hear this. A positive BRCA test does not mean a leap to surgery. I have spoken to many doctors, surgeons and naturopaths. There are other options. Some women take birth control pills or rely on alternative medicines combined with frequent checks. There is more than one way to deal with any health issue. The most important thing is to learn about the options and choose what is right for you personally.
In my case, the Eastern and Western doctors I met agreed that surgery to remove my tubes and ovaries was the best option, because on top of the BRCA gene, three women in my family have died from cancer. My doctors indicated I should have preventive surgery about a decade before the earliest onset of cancer in my female relatives. My mother’s ovarian cancer was diagnosed when she was 49. I’m 39.
Last week, I had the procedure: a laparoscopic bilateral salpingo-oophorectomy. There was a small benign tumor on one ovary, but no signs of cancer in any of the tissues.
I have a little clear patch that contains bio-identical estrogen. A progesterone IUD was inserted in my uterus. It will help me maintain a hormonal balance, but more important it will help prevent uterine cancer. I chose to keep my uterus because cancer in that location is not part of my family history.
It is not possible to remove all risk, and the fact is I remain prone to cancer. I will look for natural ways to strengthen my immune system. I feel feminine, and grounded in the choices I am making for myself and my family. I know my children will never have to say, “Mom died of ovarian cancer.”
Regardless of the hormone replacements I’m taking, I am now in menopause. I will not be able to have any more children, and I expect some physical changes. But I feel at ease with whatever will come, not because I am strong but because this is a part of life. It is nothing to be feared.
I feel deeply for women for whom this moment comes very early in life, before they have had their children. Their situation is far harder than mine. I inquired and found out that there are options for women to remove their fallopian tubes but keep their ovaries, and so retain the ability to bear children and not go into menopause. I hope they can be aware of that.
It is not easy to make these decisions. But it is possible to take control and tackle head-on any health issue. You can seek advice, learn about the options and make choices that are right for you. Knowledge is power.
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Tuesday, July 01, 2014
Celebrating my 8th Year, Cancer-free!
My 8th year of remission:
I celebrated it with our travel to the furthest spot on Earth that we have ever travelled to..Brazil and Peru!
And being able to complete that climb up to Huayna Picchu, to look down on Machu Picchu from 300m high up, even with my numb toes today? That was my pinnacle in achievement, my symbolic victory over cancer!
Follow me to South America on this video clip, from the mighty Iguazzu Falls in both Argentina and Brazil, to the magnificent Machu Picchu and Huayna Picchu, and onwards to the awe-inspiring Christ the Redeemer and the beautiful Copacabana in Rio! Enjoy this Peruvian treasure-song, El Condor Pasa, from the traditional windpipes of a Peruvian performer at the Sacred Valley,Urubamba ..
I celebrated it with our travel to the furthest spot on Earth that we have ever travelled to..Brazil and Peru!
And being able to complete that climb up to Huayna Picchu, to look down on Machu Picchu from 300m high up, even with my numb toes today? That was my pinnacle in achievement, my symbolic victory over cancer!
Follow me to South America on this video clip, from the mighty Iguazzu Falls in both Argentina and Brazil, to the magnificent Machu Picchu and Huayna Picchu, and onwards to the awe-inspiring Christ the Redeemer and the beautiful Copacabana in Rio! Enjoy this Peruvian treasure-song, El Condor Pasa, from the traditional windpipes of a Peruvian performer at the Sacred Valley,Urubamba ..
Tuesday, June 04, 2013
Angelina Jolie's Strength is Amazing!
The strength that Angelina Jolie showed in her decision to have a double mastectomy based on her genetic makeup (her revealing NYT article below) is quite amazing. Would I have done this myself? Hmm..that's a really tough question, and one which, no doubt, would have caused me to have many sleepless nights. But with my own history of ovarian cancer and having gone through the full cancer treatment myself, I am quite sure I would have taken the same decision as hers. She is a terrific inspiration to all women who have to face a similar decision.
Published: May 14, 2013
Op-Ed Contributor
My Medical Choice
By ANGELINA JOLIE
Published: May 14, 2013
MY MOTHER fought cancer for almost a decade and died at 56. She held out long enough to meet the first of her grandchildren and to hold them in her arms. But my other children will never have the chance to know her and experience how loving and gracious she was.
We often speak of “Mommy’s mommy,” and I find myself trying to explain the illness that took her away from us. They have asked if the same could happen to me. I have always told them not to worry, but the truth is I carry a “faulty” gene, BRCA1, which sharply increases my risk of developing breast cancer and ovarian cancer.
My doctors estimated that I had an 87 percent risk of breast cancer and a 50 percent risk of ovarian cancer, although the risk is different in the case of each woman.
Only a fraction of breast cancers result from an inherited gene mutation. Those with a defect in BRCA1 have a 65 percent risk of getting it, on average.
Once I knew that this was my reality, I decided to be proactive and to minimize the risk as much I could. I made a decision to have a preventive double mastectomy. I started with the breasts, as my risk of breast cancer is higher than my risk of ovarian cancer, and the surgery is more complex.
On April 27, I finished the three months of medical procedures that the mastectomies involved. During that time I have been able to keep this private and to carry on with my work.
But I am writing about it now because I hope that other women can benefit from my experience. Cancer is still a word that strikes fear into people’s hearts, producing a deep sense of powerlessness. But today it is possible to find out through a blood test whether you are highly susceptible to breast and ovarian cancer, and then take action.
My own process began on Feb. 2 with a procedure known as a “nipple delay,” which rules out disease in the breast ducts behind the nipple and draws extra blood flow to the area. This causes some pain and a lot of bruising, but it increases the chance of saving the nipple.
Two weeks later I had the major surgery, where the breast tissue is removed and temporary fillers are put in place. The operation can take eight hours. You wake up with drain tubes and expanders in your breasts. It does feel like a scene out of a science-fiction film. But days after surgery you can be back to a normal life.
Nine weeks later, the final surgery is completed with the reconstruction of the breasts with an implant. There have been many advances in this procedure in the last few years, and the results can be beautiful.
I wanted to write this to tell other women that the decision to have a mastectomy was not easy. But it is one I am very happy that I made. My chances of developing breast cancer have dropped from 87 percent to under 5 percent. I can tell my children that they don’t need to fear they will lose me to breast cancer.
It is reassuring that they see nothing that makes them uncomfortable. They can see my small scars and that’s it. Everything else is just Mommy, the same as she always was. And they know that I love them and will do anything to be with them as long as I can. On a personal note, I do not feel any less of a woman. I feel empowered that I made a strong choice that in no way diminishes my femininity.
I am fortunate to have a partner, Brad Pitt, who is so loving and supportive. So to anyone who has a wife or girlfriend going through this, know that you are a very important part of the transition. Brad was at the Pink Lotus Breast Center, where I was treated, for every minute of the surgeries. We managed to find moments to laugh together. We knew this was the right thing to do for our family and that it would bring us closer. And it has.
For any woman reading this, I hope it helps you to know you have options. I want to encourage every woman, especially if you have a family history of breast or ovarian cancer, to seek out the information and medical experts who can help you through this aspect of your life, and to make your own informed choices.
I acknowledge that there are many wonderful holistic doctors working on alternatives to surgery. My own regimen will be posted in due course on the Web site of the Pink Lotus Breast Center. I hope that this will be helpful to other women.
Breast cancer alone kills some 458,000 people each year, according to the World Health Organization, mainly in low- and middle-income countries. It has got to be a priority to ensure that more women can access gene testing and lifesaving preventive treatment, whatever their means and background, wherever they live. The cost of testing for BRCA1 and BRCA2, at more than $3,000 in the United States, remains an obstacle for many women.
I choose not to keep my story private because there are many women who do not know that they might be living under the shadow of cancer. It is my hope that they, too, will be able to get gene tested, and that if they have a high risk they, too, will know that they have strong options.
Life comes with many challenges. The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of.
Angelina Jolie is an actress and director.
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Sunday, February 19, 2012
Exotic Eastern Europe - mystery, beauty
The mystery and history of Eastern Europe came to me under the cover of the coldest winter in 28 years. First, it was -7C in Prague, and then it went down to a brain-freezing -18C in Krakow..wow!
But without that deep chill, I wouldn't have picked up my first fox-skin ruskie-hat in Krakow, or brought the true horror of the Holocaust into reality..deep winter in striped pyjamas for the millions who perished in concentraion camps across Poland, Austria and the Czech Republic. What an experience indeed.
And then the beauty of Eastern Europe unfolds - exotic Prague, the Berlin Wall, the "Buda" and "Pest" sides of that beautiful city, followed by Vienna and Strasbourg. The contrast between the past and now for these cities is amazing and must be there to really appreciate it. Try to be there, for at least once in your life, if you can. Especially, in winter.
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Hanoi and Halong Bay - "Heaven & Earth"
The raw beauty of Hanoi and Halong Bay is simply captivating!
Perhaps it's the cool weather that surprised me. Or perhaps it's the old beauty of hectic Hanoi ("beep-beep!") coupled with the handsome, awesome islets of Halong Bay..
But whatever it was, the combination of Hanoi and Halong was a clear winner for me. I am beginning to learn that my short getaways to world-class beauties like this one at Halong Bay and last year at Angkor Wat have more meaning to me, carving out outstanding meories along the way.
What a way for me to start my own "1000 Places to See/Experience After Remission!", taking inspiration from the travel series-cum-book, "1000 Places to See Before You Die".
And Hanoi and Halong Bay are indeed the first 2 of my own 1000 Places!
Perhaps it's the cool weather that surprised me. Or perhaps it's the old beauty of hectic Hanoi ("beep-beep!") coupled with the handsome, awesome islets of Halong Bay..
But whatever it was, the combination of Hanoi and Halong was a clear winner for me. I am beginning to learn that my short getaways to world-class beauties like this one at Halong Bay and last year at Angkor Wat have more meaning to me, carving out outstanding meories along the way.
What a way for me to start my own "1000 Places to See/Experience After Remission!", taking inspiration from the travel series-cum-book, "1000 Places to See Before You Die".
And Hanoi and Halong Bay are indeed the first 2 of my own 1000 Places!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
12 Months, 12 Cancer Warriors..
In a meaningful tribute to cancer warriors who have successfully beaten cancer, Parkway Hospitals gathered 12 survivors together (for each of the 12 months of a year) at the Old Parliament House in October to give them an endearing afternoon, with family, friends and members of the press.



While an impressive String Quartet serenaded the warriors, Dr Ang Peng Tiam took to the stage to congratulate all 12 survivors who have successfully passed the all-important 5-year milestone. A lovely studio-produced photo-frame was given all the survivors to mark the occasion. This momento certainly gave me even more incentive to pass the next milestone of 10-years.
Goodness, why not aim to go all the way and pass the 50-year milestone all the same!
Sunday, May 29, 2011
The Inner Child in Us..
And for me, watching Justin Bieber on stage brought back the teenager years, as he brought the house down last month.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Seductive Spain and Portugal..
My own "Amazing Race" continues..
This time, it's the seductively beautiful Spain and Portugal!
Until one puts some quality time into Spain and Portugal, you only hear of Barcelona, Madrid and Lisbon. But the cities on the outskirts of each main city bring plenty of surprises, from the unique architecture of Salamanca, the flaming suckling pig of Segovia and the quiet charm of Zaragoza ("3653"). Toledo was another gem!
What a grand Iberian trip, indeed!
My "Amazing Race" therapy continues..
This time, it's the seductively beautiful Spain and Portugal!
Until one puts some quality time into Spain and Portugal, you only hear of Barcelona, Madrid and Lisbon. But the cities on the outskirts of each main city bring plenty of surprises, from the unique architecture of Salamanca, the flaming suckling pig of Segovia and the quiet charm of Zaragoza ("3653"). Toledo was another gem!
What a grand Iberian trip, indeed!
My "Amazing Race" therapy continues..
Friday, April 01, 2011
R-E-M-I-S-S-I-O-N
The 9-letter word that all cancer patients (and warriors) cannot wait to hear from their own oncologist, and on 23 March, I finally heard mine from Dr Ang!
"Have I finally made it? Is it already fully 5 years since the end of the last chemo?", we asked the good doctor in earnest.
Doc replied, "No, you are 3 month short, but your results are so good, I believe you have made it, Nellie!"
What a surge of emotions inside me! These 2 photos really depict everything that's inside me:
Once, I was blurred, from the backdrop.
Now, I am right on 100% focus! And at the forefront of my life!
I did it..
With the help of everyone around me - my family, my father in heaven, my Hubby, my Doc - I have saved my own life!

And to mark the occasion, Hubby bought a lovely ring, right off Orchard Road on the evening itself, to signify that my life has indeed come full circle!
Words cannot describe my gratitude to all who have helped me through this amazing roller-coaster of a journey. That night, as I lay in bed, I said a silent prayer..
(And oh, in case you are wondering, this is no April Fool's joke)
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
Eat, Pray, Awe..at Angkor
The beauty of Angkor Wat was in full display, as we jet into Siem Reap (and Cambodia) for the first time.
Over 900 years old, but once you see Angkor Wat in person, it is as if it was built only this century.. solid stones, intricate carvings, silk-cotton trees, ancient temples and all.
We came, thinking that this may be a once-in-a-lifetime experience. But we left, knowing we are just but a hop, step and jet-stop away..and we want to be immerse again in the beauty, peace and tranquility of Angkor Wat and its awesome surrounding temples of Angkor Thom, Bayon, Ta Promh and the Phimeanakas Palace.
It is indeed one of the true 7 Wonders of the World.
-Eiffel Tower (checked)
-Great Wall of China (checked)
-Great Pyramids (checked)
-Acropolis (checked)
-Colosseum (checked)
- and now, Angkor Wat (checked)
..now, which is the last Wonder? Our search continues..
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
The Most Beautiful 2000km on Earth..
Can this possibly be the most beautiful 2000km on Earth?
(click on the "4-arrows" icon for a full-size view)
Everytime I view these scenes, I am completely taken by the inspiring beauty that resides inside each brick and stone, every piece of marble and each hunk of steel that has made these western European cities the most beautiful on Planet Earth. Surely, there can't be another 2000km stretch of land as beautiful and historical as this Rome-to-Paris-via-Venice-Florence-and-Lucerne stretch, can there?
As the song says, ".. And I feel just like I am livin' someone else's life..it's like I've stepped outside, when everything is going right.."
Hey, everything is going right, for me!
Perhaps, the coin that Hubby tossed into the Trevi Fountain will bring me back there again, one day..
(thank you Mum and Sis for making this trip with me, and making it even more meaningful for me!)
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
"One Hundred Ways"..
An evening to recharge the soul, with James Ingram, the ultimate soul-man.
Regarded by top professionals in the music industry as the "Singers' Singer", the man took the stage at the Esplanade like a real pro, and rolled back the years as if 20 years younger than he really is today, complete with actual press-ups on stage.. while singing in his full, rich voice.

"..find One Hundred Ways.."
This song brings me back to the days when I had to find all ways, yes 100 ways, to combat my cancer. What an inspiring evening indeed, just listening to this man belt out his multiple Grammy-winning songs. Just listen:
Thank you, James Ingram, for enveloping my body with those beautiful (and I am sure, cancer cell-busting!) words..
(see earlier postings on what music means to me, and how it can recharge our bodies:
Monday, January 25, 2010
Run for Hope 2009..
Another lively bunch of runners (well, 7000+ bunch, actually) took to the early morning sunshine at the East Coast to do their bit for cancer research.

It was good to see that the drab economic landscape this year has not dampened the spirit of giving. I am sure the number supporting this event will surpass 10,000 soon.
Sunday, July 19, 2009
The Molly Lee Appeal
Friday, April 17, 2009
CNA's TV program on Ovarian Cancer
Did you watch the full program on ovarian cancer on Channel News Asia (CNA)?
So many things to learn from this TV program. Please take the opportunity to watch this full version:
http://www.parkwaycancercentre.com/multimedia/journey-of-hope/ovarian-cancer-part-1
So many things to learn from this TV program. Please take the opportunity to watch this full version:
http://www.parkwaycancercentre.com/multimedia/journey-of-hope/ovarian-cancer-part-1
Friday, December 19, 2008
Dancing with Children..what a gift!
I have to pinch myself at times..
Where else can you dance with wonderful 4-, 5- and 6-year old children?
When else should we let our own innocent free spirits fly high and just enjoy the moment?
I had the honour (and privilege) to step on stage with some of the lovely children from my childcare centres 3 weeks ago and danced with them, in front of over 250 parents during this year's Graduation Concert 2008. And what energy indeed from these musically gifted children ..raw and unbridled. And they hardly required much in terms of directions from our teachers to dance their moves to this catchy Bollywood favourite, "Bole Chudiyan".
What an "encore", children! (did we teach you, or did you teach us teachers instead?)
I am just so lucky to be able to receive these moments of joy and laughter from the children. Thank you, children (and my teachers) for shining "your light" on me on that day and allowing me to dance with you .. what a gift indeed that you have given me that day! (thank you, parents too!)
Where else can you dance with wonderful 4-, 5- and 6-year old children?
When else should we let our own innocent free spirits fly high and just enjoy the moment?
I had the honour (and privilege) to step on stage with some of the lovely children from my childcare centres 3 weeks ago and danced with them, in front of over 250 parents during this year's Graduation Concert 2008. And what energy indeed from these musically gifted children ..raw and unbridled. And they hardly required much in terms of directions from our teachers to dance their moves to this catchy Bollywood favourite, "Bole Chudiyan".
What an "encore", children! (did we teach you, or did you teach us teachers instead?)
I am just so lucky to be able to receive these moments of joy and laughter from the children. Thank you, children (and my teachers) for shining "your light" on me on that day and allowing me to dance with you .. what a gift indeed that you have given me that day! (thank you, parents too!)
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Not Giving Up..
I was glad to read this news article today, and more importantly, to see this good man successfully fighting his cancer. More power to this "NKFbuster"!
Not Giving Up..
WHEN the doctor asked 'Mr Charity' Gerard Ee to sit down, he knew the news about his colon check was not good.
'I told the doctor I'd watched enough movies to know that when the doc says take a seat, it's bad news,' recalled Mr Ee yesterday. 'I told him: 'Don't waste my time, tell me what the outcome is.''
The doctor replied: Stage 3 colon cancer, with a tumour almost as big as a tennis ball.
Patients at this stage of colon cancer are said to have a 40 per cent survival rate on average. 'If the cancer was Stage 4, I'd be a goner,' said Mr Ee.
For the veteran volunteer and charity personality, this marked the beginning of a period of contemplating the possibility of death and what it would mean for those around him, especially his wife and teenage children.
Almost a year since that day in the doctor's clinic, the 59-year-old came out in public yesterday to share the story of his fight against the dreaded Big C.
He did so to show his support for a campaign by the Lien Foundation to get people talking more openly about death and dying.
The campaign coincides with the Government's move to promote the Advance Medical Directive, a legal document to instruct doctors not to take extraordinary measures to prolong life if one is terminally ill or unconscious. The Lien Foundation's chairman, Mrs Margaret Lien, said of the campaign: 'A lot of unnecessary burden and pain can be avoided if we can talk about end-of-life matters openly.'
For Mr Ee, a retired accountant who is currently chairman of the National Kidney Foundation (NKF) and Public Transport Council, the past year has meant undergoing surgery to remove the tumour and 12 sessions of chemotherapy.
The good news is that he is now 'in the clear' since finishing his last round of chemotherapy in June.
Looking back, he said what helped him through the year was his faith in God, a sense of humour and the fact that he had put his finances in order. The devout Catholic said: 'People were surprised I was so calm throughout the whole thing. I think if I didn't have a strong faith in God, I would have been in a panic.'
His calmness helped his wife, 15-year-old son and 13-year-old daughter to accept the diagnosis as well.
'I tried to avoid using dramatic words like 'tumour' when I broke the news to my family,' he said. 'I said: 'I have a growth that needs to be operated on.' I knew that if I was hysterical about it, it would have had a chain effect on others.'
Mr Ee was hard-pressed to answer when asked what proved most difficult for him in facing up to cancer. But he confessed to being worried before the surgery to remove his tumour.
'There are only two outcomes: you wake up, or you don't,' he said. 'If you don't wake up, that's the end of the story and my will and life insurance would take care of what happens after that.
'But if you wake up, you have to figure out what to do after that.'
He woke up. And what he did after that was work to keep his spirits up.
He had a rule for his family: No one was allowed to treat him like an invalid.
So he drove himself to chemotherapy sessions and, within two weeks of the operation, was back to performing a host of volunteer commitments.
The surgery involved removing a part of his small intestine, over half a metre of large intestine and his appendix as well. Over the whole process, he also lost 25kg.
'Having a sense of humour is important. I told my friends I had a free liposuction with the operation,' he said.
After keeping his illness private for a year, the Lien Foundation campaign gave Mr Ee a chance to share what he had gone through.
He thinks it is important to get people to prepare for death. Among other things, their families may suffer if they fail to settle their finances before they go.
He said: 'The only thing in life you can guarantee, and nowadays people talk about guarantees, is death.
'If you treat death as taboo and don't prepare for it, you are leaving behind a legacy in which your family will suffer because you ignore it and pretend it won't happen to you.'
theresat@sph.com.sg
13Nov08, ST
Not Giving Up..

WHEN the doctor asked 'Mr Charity' Gerard Ee to sit down, he knew the news about his colon check was not good.
'I told the doctor I'd watched enough movies to know that when the doc says take a seat, it's bad news,' recalled Mr Ee yesterday. 'I told him: 'Don't waste my time, tell me what the outcome is.''
The doctor replied: Stage 3 colon cancer, with a tumour almost as big as a tennis ball.
Patients at this stage of colon cancer are said to have a 40 per cent survival rate on average. 'If the cancer was Stage 4, I'd be a goner,' said Mr Ee.
For the veteran volunteer and charity personality, this marked the beginning of a period of contemplating the possibility of death and what it would mean for those around him, especially his wife and teenage children.
Almost a year since that day in the doctor's clinic, the 59-year-old came out in public yesterday to share the story of his fight against the dreaded Big C.
He did so to show his support for a campaign by the Lien Foundation to get people talking more openly about death and dying.
The campaign coincides with the Government's move to promote the Advance Medical Directive, a legal document to instruct doctors not to take extraordinary measures to prolong life if one is terminally ill or unconscious. The Lien Foundation's chairman, Mrs Margaret Lien, said of the campaign: 'A lot of unnecessary burden and pain can be avoided if we can talk about end-of-life matters openly.'
For Mr Ee, a retired accountant who is currently chairman of the National Kidney Foundation (NKF) and Public Transport Council, the past year has meant undergoing surgery to remove the tumour and 12 sessions of chemotherapy.
The good news is that he is now 'in the clear' since finishing his last round of chemotherapy in June.
Looking back, he said what helped him through the year was his faith in God, a sense of humour and the fact that he had put his finances in order. The devout Catholic said: 'People were surprised I was so calm throughout the whole thing. I think if I didn't have a strong faith in God, I would have been in a panic.'
His calmness helped his wife, 15-year-old son and 13-year-old daughter to accept the diagnosis as well.
'I tried to avoid using dramatic words like 'tumour' when I broke the news to my family,' he said. 'I said: 'I have a growth that needs to be operated on.' I knew that if I was hysterical about it, it would have had a chain effect on others.'
Mr Ee was hard-pressed to answer when asked what proved most difficult for him in facing up to cancer. But he confessed to being worried before the surgery to remove his tumour.
'There are only two outcomes: you wake up, or you don't,' he said. 'If you don't wake up, that's the end of the story and my will and life insurance would take care of what happens after that.
'But if you wake up, you have to figure out what to do after that.'
He woke up. And what he did after that was work to keep his spirits up.
He had a rule for his family: No one was allowed to treat him like an invalid.
So he drove himself to chemotherapy sessions and, within two weeks of the operation, was back to performing a host of volunteer commitments.
The surgery involved removing a part of his small intestine, over half a metre of large intestine and his appendix as well. Over the whole process, he also lost 25kg.
'Having a sense of humour is important. I told my friends I had a free liposuction with the operation,' he said.
After keeping his illness private for a year, the Lien Foundation campaign gave Mr Ee a chance to share what he had gone through.
He thinks it is important to get people to prepare for death. Among other things, their families may suffer if they fail to settle their finances before they go.
He said: 'The only thing in life you can guarantee, and nowadays people talk about guarantees, is death.
'If you treat death as taboo and don't prepare for it, you are leaving behind a legacy in which your family will suffer because you ignore it and pretend it won't happen to you.'
theresat@sph.com.sg
13Nov08, ST
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